Marriage Goals: What U.N.I.T.Y. Really Looks Like
In our 300th episode, we’re going big or going home, discussing the popular yet often misunderstood topic of “Marriage Goals.” Social media paints a picture-perfect image of what marriage goals should look like – those idyllic photos on a beach or atop a mountain with captions like #MarriageGoals. But today, we’re venturing beyond the Instagram facade to explore how you can truly create the marriage of your dreams – one that’s more profound, united, and undivided.
As we celebrate our 300th podcast episode, I couldn’t be more thrilled to celebrate with you! When I started this journey in August 2020, I aimed to create a platform where I could offer wisdom, advice, and support to those braving the often tumultuous waters of marriage. Fast forward four years, and here we are, celebrating not only an incredible milestone but also the countless conversations, laughs, and learnings we’ve shared together. Today, we are focusing on creating marriages worthy of our calling.
The Real “Marriage Goals”
Marriage, like any worthwhile pursuit, requires intention and effort. It’s more than companionship or shared experiences; it’s about achieving oneness – a miracle where two whole individuals become one entity, especially if you’re doing so with Christ as your foundation.
The hashtag-ready pics may draw likes, but genuine marriage goals focus on unity and purpose, not perfection. You may wonder, “What are the true goals of a marriage?” I created an acronym for UNITY that will help you remember to pursue unity in embracing your marriage goals.
Embracing Oneness and Facing Challenges
Your marriage has a calling. Don’t let busyness or distractions pull you apart. When you notice distance cropping in, address it head-on with humility and grace. Seeking oneness, prioritizing unity, and living intentionally can transform conflicts into growth opportunities.
In my reflections, I was inspired to share how the simple reading of Ephesians 4 with Shaun led to profound realizations.
Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God. Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one Spirit, just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future.
In our hustle and bustle, we’d let an offense slip, unaddressed, festering beneath the surface. But Paul’s teachings pulled us back to focus—on nurturing unity, showing humility, and making allowances for mistakes.
When you realize you’ve stumbled in your marriage, quick correction can prevent long-term damage. Pride can keep us from being the first to apologize, but choosing to mend bridges fosters deeper empathy and shared responsibility in reaching your marriage goals.
Here’s where our acronym for UNITY comes in – a guide to help you steer your relationship toward oneness.
UNITY: The Blueprint for Oneness
U – Unity: This is more than just agreeing or having similar attitudes; it’s about aligning your life’s mission, purpose, and goals with your spouse. Unity doesn’t mean uniformity. You and your spouse are unique individuals, yet the miracle of marriage is finding strength in your unity, despite differences. Think of unity as movement in synchrony, always considering your partner’s needs and desires alongside your own.
N – Nurture: Relationships need nurturing, just like a garden requires regular watering and care. In Ephesians 4, Paul writes about nurturing qualities like humility, patience, and love. These attributes fuel the health of your marriage. Humility, for instance, goes a long way in lowering oneself for the sake of another, while patience allows room for growth and understanding, even when the going gets tough.
I – In the Spirit: Walking together in the Spirit is crucial, especially for Christian marriages. It’s about being spiritually in tune and ensuring that Christ remains at the center of your relationship. This spiritual unity is a strong defense against discord and division and serves as a guiding light through challenges you both will face.
T – Together: It’s not merely about living under the same roof; it’s intentionally doing life together. Whether it’s reading the Bible or cooking dinner, these shared experiences tie the fabric of your relationship tighter. Make a point to plan your lives together; be it financial goals, parenting, or personal development, approach them as a unit.
Y – Yet: Hope is what carries us forward. The “yet” is the belief in what’s to come. It’s understanding that even if the present moment is fraught with difficulties, there is potential for a beautiful future. This future hope motivates us to press on despite today’s challenges.
ALSO LISTEN TO: Ep. 45- 5 Powerful Scriptures for Waiting in Hope
Moving Forward Together
Looking beyond what’s in front of us and toward the “yet” offers hope—hope for better communication, stronger connection, and joy beyond the immediate horizon. Don’t let today’s trials cloud the potential of what your marriage can become. The best is yet to come.
In wrapping up our 300th episode, I’ve reflected on the growth of this podcast. It began as a small project and has grown to touch the lives of listeners worldwide. We’ve surpassed over 600,000 downloads! Glory to God!
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Thank you, dear friends, for being an integral part of this journey. Here’s to growing stronger in our marriages and fostering a love that’s truly united and undivided. Here’s to the hope that the best is indeed yet to come!
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