We’re Stuck in the Middle of Our Friends’ Divorce

When you’re best friends with both halves of a splitting couple, as listener Sherry is, things can get messy. Divorce is one of those life events that not only impacts the couple involved but also sends ripples through their connected circle of friends and family. So how do you show love and support without finding yourself stuck in the middle, or worse, causing unintended strains on your relationships and own marriage? In this episode, we dive into these questions and explore ways to maintain healthy boundaries and communications while also supporting your friends through a divorce.

Here are some key takeaways from the episode:

Love as Individuals: While it’s normal to grieve the loss of a couple, remember to cherish your friends as individuals. Divorce affects everyone connected to the marriage, and it’s important to acknowledge your feelings too.

Respect Proper Boundaries: Avoid becoming an informant for either party. Maintain confidentiality and don’t let conversations with your spouse turn into information exchanges between the friends.

Model Good Communication: Use this opportunity to showcase effective communication. Let your actions demonstrate how to uphold dignity and respect, even amidst conflict.

Forge a New Way Forward: Continue your friendship with both parties if safe and appropriate. Don’t feel compelled to choose sides, and embrace the change with grace.

Prepare for New Relationships: If your friends move on to new relationships, keep an open mind and offer honest advice when solicited. Recognize your biases and strive to support your friends’ overall happiness.

Remember, it’s essential not to let your friends’ issues seep into your own marriage. Keep their struggles separate from your relationship, and focus on maintaining harmony at home.

This week’s Fun Friday Challenge: Take some time to reflect on your friendships and consider one way you can show appreciation to a friend this week. Let’s continue to nurture the relationships that lift us up.

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