Christmas can be a very difficult time for those who are alone or have lost someone they love. Feelings of abandonment, rejection and depression can easily seep in. A dear, divorced friend of mine whose children are now grown and distant, was sharing with me how this time of year can be exceptionally lonely. My heart goes out to all in this situation. I can’t help but think of Jesus. “He was despised and rejected, a man of many sorrows and familiar with suffering” (Isaiah 53:3). Those closest to him walked away and betrayed him in his darkest hour.
What about you? Are you like my friend, feeling all alone this holiday season? If so, take comfort in knowing that Jesus can relate! I say, if you are feeling alone, look up and look out. Look up to Christ, and tell him what you’re feeling. Don’t worry, you’re not complaining: you’re just being honest with a God who loves you. How about playing some soft worship music to set the atmosphere of your home? Pandora has a huge selection.
Next, look out. Who can you bless this holiday season? Remember, not all blessings involve money. Who do you know that is alone? What about someone in a nursing home? We know they are often rejected and left alone day after day. How about that neighbor you barely know? I’ve learned that in order to get what you want, you’ve got to give what you’ve got. If you need love, give some. If you need friendship, be a friend. If you need peace, make some. As you begin to “look out,” watch your own feelings of loneliness evaporate.
As we begin to take the focus off of our own need, and look after the needs of others, God is able to do his “magic” and fill our lives and hearts with love, peace and joy.
Merry Christmas to all of you, and especially those who feel rejected and alone!